Life is constantly changing\u2026 and we change with it. Things we once loved may no longer be important to us today\u2026 and often, we suddenly see things we didn\u2019t like before in a different light \u2014 and are able to handle them better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Our bodies change, both internally and externally\u2026 We, as human beings, change throughout every stage of life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, I am an adult woman. My children are grown up now. I am definitely no longer the woman I was at 18\u2026 I am also no longer the woman who gave birth to her children at 28 and 34\u2026 So many different women have already lived within me\u2026 Maybe I am not even exactly the same Vera I was yesterday\u2026?\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, I see many things differently. I am able to handle many situations better. I cope better. But on the other hand, there are also parts of me that have always been there. They only change slowly. Sometimes just a little bit\u2026 And some never completely disappear. They are as if they are stuck in my brain and my heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Often, these are exactly the parts that are very destructive or negative.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
People say that these are our inner children, who sometimes cry out inside us. The hurt, fearful, or sad child within us\u2026 and yes, that may very well be true\u2026 I believe in this theory. I know that this child within me, who is still angry and afraid, often holds me back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When I am in a very stressful situation, it can happen that I can\u2019t get anything out. It feels like my brain function is paralyzed. All my thoughts are tangled. Panic. A feeling of being lost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Or the \u201cangry\u201d child appears. This child can even become verbally aggressive. It says things I actually shouldn\u2019t say. Everything happens without really thinking.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There are so many children within me whose presence I would have loved to leave behind a long time ago.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And then there is this one child. For me, it may be the hardest one to deal with. The child that is ashamed of itself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This ashamed little girl suffers because of herself. She suffers because of what she says, how she looks, and who she is. She feels uncomfortable around other people because she does not feel that she is good enough as she is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It always feels like it is not liked or loved. Maybe because it cannot truly accept itself. At some point, this little girl felt so deeply that she was wrong and not welcome \u2014 or interpreted it that way with her child\u2019s mind \u2014 that she built a kind of protective shell around herself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And this protective shell is something it still carries to this day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I, as an adult and experienced woman, constantly try to talk to this child within me. Today, I am better able to observe, analyze, and understand situations from the past. I have comforted this little girl many times, and I even think she is doing much better now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But its presence within me is still there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I am helping this little girl. I want to show her how she can continue to grow \u2014 with all my love and with the perspective I have gained as an adult.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n A few things still need to be resolved. But things that are in the past should stay in the past. Right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Yes, they should.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n We have already achieved so much together. This little girl inside me definitely feels much more relaxed now. But we will continue working on ourselves together\u2026 We still have so much to learn\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n Another process. A process that we are currently going through\u2026 and we will not give up\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n (*) Professional Support:<\/strong> My content is intended for inspiration and general information. However, if you feel that you may be experiencing depression or another form of emotional distress<\/em>, it is very important that you seek professional support<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Das Leben ver\u00e4ndert sich st\u00e4ndig\u2026 und mit ihm ver\u00e4ndern auch wir uns. Dinge, die wir fr\u00fcher geliebt haben, sind heute vielleicht nicht mehr wichtig\u2026 und oft sehen wir Dinge, die wir fr\u00fcher nicht mochten, auf einmal mit anderen Augen \u2013 und k\u00f6nnen besser damit umgehen. Unser K\u00f6rper ver\u00e4ndert sich, innerlich und \u00e4u\u00dferlich\u2026 Wir als Menschen […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":398,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[72,74],"class_list":["post-1068","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-move-on-journal","tag-komplexen-ueberwinden","tag-leben-veranderung"],"blocksy_meta":{"disable_featured_image":"yes","styles_descriptor":{"styles":{"desktop":"","tablet":"","mobile":""},"google_fonts":[],"version":7}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/meinselectset.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1068","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/meinselectset.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/meinselectset.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/meinselectset.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/meinselectset.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1068"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/meinselectset.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1068\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1176,"href":"https:\/\/meinselectset.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1068\/revisions\/1176"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/meinselectset.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/398"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/meinselectset.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1068"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/meinselectset.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1068"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/meinselectset.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1068"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}